You don’t need to hack, regulate or manage your nervous system every time you feel overwhelmed.

You don’t need to calm down faster.

Or track your triggers.

Or do breathwork on a yoga mat in a low-lit room with matching loungewear.

Because here’s the quiet truth no one’s really saying:

It’s safe to suffer.

It’s safe to feel like a mess.

It’s safe to not be okay.

You are not broken when you’re anxious, heart-racey, shaky, or numb.

You’re not failing to self-regulate.

You’re just… human.

And your body? It knows what it’s doing.

We’ve been taught to fear our inner experiences. To fix them, analyse them, manage them into submission.

But what if we didn’t?

What if you didn’t need to do anything with the discomfort, except listen?

What I’ve seen (in my own life and with every woman I work with) is this:

Your nervous system isn’t a problem to manage.

It’s a guide.

And it speaks in the moment. Not in theories or strategies, but through felt signals. Nudges. Pauses. Surges. Stillness.

You don’t have to understand or regulate all of that. You just have to follow it.

And trust that it knows the way – even when your mind’s kicking up a storm.

This isn’t about ignoring suffering. It’s about seeing that even in the thick of it, you’re safe.

You’re experiencing a mental storm which triggers a release of chemicals in your body, and sensations we usually find distinctly uncomfortable.

But you can no more force that away than change the weather. You can wait it out though, and look after yourself as best you can until the storm passes.

And when you stop fighting the feeling?

Something quiet opens up.

If you’ve been exhausting yourself trying to stay regulated, this is your permission slip to stop. You’re allowed to feel. You’re built for it. And you’re okay – even when it feels like you’re really, really not.